The Child Therapy List is a global online directory of mental health professionals. Members who list their services on this directory provide expert, child competent services and support. This directory is expanding and not at all complete or final, and is designed to provide you with the best place to begin if you are looking for mental health support in your area, or for a specific issue. Please note that having a listing in this directory does not imply that the mental health provider is, in any way, endorsed by The Child Therapy List. And while The Child Therapy List does verify that all our members are credentialed, we highly recommend that you visit their websites and check with the professional licensing bodies in your state or province or region to make sure that the provider is licensed, in good standing, and eligible to practice in your state, province or region.
Relationships that involve the depth that comes with intimacy often require authenticity. Without authenticity, intimacy is hard to cultivate. When your child feels that their experiences are heard and seen, and they are met with acceptance instead of judgement or rejection, they learn that it is emotionally safe to be authentic with their parents. Learning the skill of validation can be helpful in connecting with your teen. Connecting with your child’s emotional world requires you to start connecting with your own emotions, both the pleasant and distressing ones. Being able to regulate your own emotional experiences in healthy ways while holding space for another can be challenging without exposure to healthy role modeling and tools. Engaging in your own personal therapy can help with developing distress tolerance and emotional regulation skills that you may want to role model for your child. If you can learn to accept the emotions and parts of yourself that you reject, you’ll be more available to connect with your child.
Teens may experience gender dysphoria which is a conflict between their biological sex and their gender identity. It is still unclear as to what causes this to occur. Theories point to interrelated factors such as hormones, trauma, social contagion, etc. It’s important to understand that teens who experience gender dysphoria are more likely to experience increased mental health symptoms including depression and anxiety. The bottom line regarding gender confusion is that kids need support, encouragement, and love. Keep in mind that labeling someone as “confused” with their gender can be invalidating and may contribute to their distress.
Different forms of parenting styles have both pros and cons. The most effective parenting style is the authoritative parenting style. With this parent style, parents allow their children to express their opinions in a safe place. Parents encourage their kids to develop critical thinking skills versus being told what to do or how to think. The relationship between parents and kids fosters independence and autonomy while providing necessary support. Discipline with this parenting style is collaborative and places limits and consequences in a way that discipline is meant for…to teach. This allows for the implicit message that although parents are “in charge”, there is an atmosphere for working together which helps kids create a buy-in to a fair system.